Give Yourself Permission to Figure it Out

Allow your journey to unfold. You are exactly where you need to be.

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It's okay if you don't have everything figured out right now.

We can spend so much time feeling like we're falling behind or that we are inadequate for not knowing exactly what we want and exactly how to get it. This is something that used to really bother me.

I felt like I needed to know what career I wanted

I needed to know who and when I would marry

I needed to know if I wanted kids

I needed to know where I wanted to live for the rest of my life

And it just felt so inauthentic. Because I'm all about flow. I never liked being told what to do. I never liked people setting expectations for me. I knew even from the youngest age that it was all bullshit. Hell, I don't even like my alarm telling me what time I need to wake up. I'll wake up when I'm good and ready. And I was here to explore my life and my journey and just to enjoy it. I was here to explore what it meant to be me.

But sitting here, I once again feel this pressure. But this time in my business. Making the decision that where you are now is not where you want to be is scary. I will never deny that, and I am so proud of you for making that decision. Making the decision that you are an entrepreneur and you want to own an empire is fucking terrifying. 

Once I seriously decided, my brain scrambled and all of my feelings of unworthiness came up. I felt the need to gather all of the information I could get my hands on to learn how to build a business and how to be an effective coach. And I quickly learned that no amount of information or knowledge was going to make up for my feelings of inadequacy. It was not that I did not know enough. It was that I didn't feel like I was enough. I learned that if I wanted to build a business that has always existed in my heart, I had to heal. I had to be okay with not knowing it all and be willing to figure it out.

In my business, the first thing I had to learn to be okay with figuring out is my niche. I had to be okay with allowing myself to figure out who my ideal audience is. I had to be okay with learning to understand her and myself. If I could tell you anything, it would be to follow your flow of inspiration.

It is okay if in the beginning, your content feels all over the place. You are still finding yourself, your voice and your niche. Trust that what you feel called to speak about is what you are meant to share.

As you get into the flow of creating content, you will notice a theme begin to unfold. You will notice what lights you up to talk about. And this, my love, is how you find your niche. This is how you come into yourself in your business.

As women especially, the business space can feel incredibly intimidating.

Because it felt like everyone else already knew that. And comparison truly is the thief of joy. Here's the thing, Queen. No one knows what the fuck they are doing. No one!! We decided to come to earth to explore our humanness and learn what it feels like to figure it out. It's all a game rigged to help us explore ourselves on the deepest level through our experiences.

You are behind on nothing. Your path is unfolding in exactly the way that it is meant to. Everything happens for you.